Peter C. Cousins, Ph.D., ABPP
Anger is a problem that very often brings children,
adolescents, and men into therapy. Women can have
anger problems too, but young men are the group that
most often suffers from anger problems. The failure to
adequately deal with anger is probably at the root of a
majority of couple problems as well. Anger issues are
more common in men than in women, but anyone can
have problems with an out of control temper. In our
fast paced living, this problem is growing. Road rage
may be just the tip of the iceberg. Anger management
is an issue that I like to change to bring happiness!
adolescents, and men into therapy. Women can have
anger problems too, but young men are the group that
most often suffers from anger problems. The failure to
adequately deal with anger is probably at the root of a
majority of couple problems as well. Anger issues are
more common in men than in women, but anyone can
have problems with an out of control temper. In our
fast paced living, this problem is growing. Road rage
may be just the tip of the iceberg. Anger management
is an issue that I like to change to bring happiness!
The good news is that if there is something that
you are doing that is responsible for a problem,
then it is something that can be changed, since we
can only change ourselves, try as we might to
make others change, it cannot be done!
you are doing that is responsible for a problem,
then it is something that can be changed, since we
can only change ourselves, try as we might to
make others change, it cannot be done!
When we get angry at something it can feel as if this person or
situation out there in the world is making us angry. With some
reflection however, we can begin to understand that it is,
strictly speaking, not the situation itself that is making us angry
but more specifically, how we perceive and interpret a
situation that makes us angry. We can prove this to ourselves
by imagining a highly spiritual person, like Jesus or the Dalai
Lama, who would not get angry in our situation. We don't have
to be exactly like them, however, that is a bit unrealistic! They
remind us of what we can all be capable. We may not be
aware that we are saying anything to ourselves, since anger
can flash very quickly, and we may not be aware right away
that there are new ways of perceiving a situation. That is
where the right counseling with the right therapist can come in.
Changing what we say to ourselves, we start to see and react
to others differently. Knowing an being motivated to change
does not produce the change, but planning a different set of
thoughts with a person who tends to make us angry is one tool
that begins to produce positive results. Working in therapy to
find the triggers of anger issues, and practicing new thoughts
and behaviors with others we care about, are key strategies of
effective anger management counseling.
situation out there in the world is making us angry. With some
reflection however, we can begin to understand that it is,
strictly speaking, not the situation itself that is making us angry
but more specifically, how we perceive and interpret a
situation that makes us angry. We can prove this to ourselves
by imagining a highly spiritual person, like Jesus or the Dalai
Lama, who would not get angry in our situation. We don't have
to be exactly like them, however, that is a bit unrealistic! They
remind us of what we can all be capable. We may not be
aware that we are saying anything to ourselves, since anger
can flash very quickly, and we may not be aware right away
that there are new ways of perceiving a situation. That is
where the right counseling with the right therapist can come in.
Changing what we say to ourselves, we start to see and react
to others differently. Knowing an being motivated to change
does not produce the change, but planning a different set of
thoughts with a person who tends to make us angry is one tool
that begins to produce positive results. Working in therapy to
find the triggers of anger issues, and practicing new thoughts
and behaviors with others we care about, are key strategies of
effective anger management counseling.
An experienced therapist who uses cognitve/behavioral
methods, has the knowledge to help you make these
unconscious automatic thoughts and reactions more
conscious so that these thoughts can be disputed and feelings
can begin to change. As long as we still get angry in a
situation we are still vulnerable to anger management
problems. Dr Cousins can help you change you thoughts,
feelings and behavior so that it is not simply a band-aid but it
is a better life with less anger and more happiness!
methods, has the knowledge to help you make these
unconscious automatic thoughts and reactions more
conscious so that these thoughts can be disputed and feelings
can begin to change. As long as we still get angry in a
situation we are still vulnerable to anger management
problems. Dr Cousins can help you change you thoughts,
feelings and behavior so that it is not simply a band-aid but it
is a better life with less anger and more happiness!
The hardest part is often taking that first step and
picking up the phone to get help. Call Dr. Cousins or
email him if you would like help with this problem.
picking up the phone to get help. Call Dr. Cousins or
email him if you would like help with this problem.
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Humble, TX 77338
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